Types of women that men should understand

There are many types of women in a relationship. Some types of woman are a result of her experiences, and some are a result of what her man is making her.

I knew of 4 types of women & and I have been into all these 4 at certain point of my life.


  1. Fairy tale-Woman. This is the women who probably grew up watching Disney films and expected to have the same fairy tale romance. In this generation this could be the woman that is so into Korean dramas and other romantic films, and ended up setting a really high expectation.To have a man who is perfect aside from being just head over heels for you. The woman who is always expecting for bouquets, chocolates, and surprises from her man, or at the classic level, a woman who is expecting for a love letter from her man (sweet!).If you really do love her why not give her the fairy tale romance that she has longed for, to make her heart grow fonder.
  2. Insecure Woman. They are the type of woman who criticize their selves a lot. The type who would compare their selves to others and get depressed a little while after. They are jealous at really trivial things and sometimes it just doesn’t work even if you tell her that she’s the prettiest. She probably has her reasons why she’s insecure just like how she might have been dumped in her previous relationship for a more fair or tanned skinned woman, or perhaps to a really young college student. Work on it man! Sometimes you just have to make her feel that she’s the prettiest in addition to telling her.Whenever she asks you about how you ex was or about how pretty your neighbor is DO.NOT.ANSWER. It’s a trap! Just tell her she’s way mooooore pretty. She might not get mad right at that moment but she will remember it. She will remember how you complimented other girls and that will create a hole in her heart.
  3. Confident Woman.  She’s the total opposite of the insecure one but she might also be lenient to the extreme. You can go to parties and go hangout with your male friends, she’s just so confident you won’t do anything to hurt her. She’s just confident about your loyalty. Confidence can even make her look more radiant and prettier.But then…you might feel a little bit lonely because it might sometimes seemed like she doesn’t care about what you do. She cares though, she’s just confident and doesn’t need reassurance about your love, and will hope you are also in the same page.
  4. Independent Woman. You don’t have to pay for her bills or drive her, she can do that. She’s strong and capable, and for some men who are trying to prove their masculinity, well, they might not be the best match for you. Some men might feel that they are useless in the face of this type of woman.They might be intimidating to some men, and might seem strong enough  like they don’t need a man at all. But nope, they also love and they also cry. They have feelings and they get hurt too. They’re probably not just used to asking help.Which type are you?Which type is your woman?


Negros Island

My college buddies and I attended the Psychological Association of the Philippines 54th Annual Convention at Bacolod City last September 20-22, and because we wanted to unwind from work and all the stress that we had, we went earlier to tour around the place.


In going to Bacolod we travelled via Dapitan-Dumaguete. (I think I payed aroud 390Php while my friend who availed SP payed around 350Php, for economy)

Travel time: 6PM then we arrived before 10PM

We just stroll around near the port, then we went to Bus Terminal. We rode in non-air conditioned bus headed to Bacolod, from 10:30PM -3:00AM.

Here is my review about where we stayed.

Review about Java Penshionne House:

Location: In the city but it is hard to locate. It’s formerly known as Boscon Hotel. 3/5

Staffs:  Really accommodating, and also give us tips on what to visit and where to eat. They also cleaned our room daily whenever we are not around, and they are very trustworthy. 5/5

Price: Very affordable. We availed  4pax room plus 1 extra bed (which booked ahead of time through facebook, but payment was only done when we arrived) then we divided the total cost. We stayed there for around 5 days and payed only 1, 040Php each. 5/5

Room: It is really old. I didn’t also used the cabinets. The comfort rooms has no proper drainage. The water is not clean, so I had to buy bottled water tow ash my face but since I had to take a bath still, I had rashes and skin allergies on my stay there. 0/5

One of the best thing in Bacolod is their Chicken Inasal so we tried it. Manokan is near SM.

Where to go?

  • It really feels good to start your itinerary by visiting churches & if you are into old and classic ones, then visit San Sebastian Church just in front of Bacolod Public Plaza. (Be careful though, we were told there were snatchers around the plaza)
  • The Negros Museum @ Gatuslao St, Bacolod, Negros Occidental. 20170918_114545.jpg

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  • Pope John Paul II Tower (I forgot to note about the entrance fee)
    Tip. Visit this at night so you can see the city light from the top of the tower.


  • The Ruins
    Tip. Visit at sunset

    There are also a lot of places to visit in the city next to Bacolod City which is Silay City. From Bacolod you can ride a jeepney going to north terminal (7Php). The jeepney terminal is right in front of the bus terminal, the jeepney will take a u turn so you can be dropped exactly in the jeepney terminal.

    Look for the jeepney with the sign “Silay”, that will be for 14.00Php. Asked the driver or the kunduktor to drop you at Heritage street or somewhere close to El Ideal (which they pronounce as L-dyal), or you can just drop near the dome church.

    From there you start.

  • San Diego Pro-Cathedral, Silay City


  • Balay Negrense

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You can also just walk around Silay City,  which is known as the Heritage City of the Philippines. There are a lot of well preserved ancestral houses around.

Where to eat?

  • We tried Aida’s Chicken near SM Bacolod City, since one of the penshionne house staff recommended it.


The chicken is a bit smaller compared to the Man Inasal Chicken, but they used native chicken of Bacolod.

I am also into atay and tina-e “isaw”. It was really good, but I find tina-e a bit expensive, but still it is a must if you are gonna visit Bacolod City.

Their tina-e is also drier than compared to the saucy tina-e I had before in other places.

  • Calea Pastries and Coffee @Bacood City
    If you are into sweets then you must try calea’s cake. (Most cake slice range from 90-100Php)20170922_191227
  • El Ideal, Silay City
    One of the oldest restaurants in the province. There are also patries for pasalubong here (pricey though).20170923_085146

If you want to buy pasalubong BongBongs and Merzci is all over Bacolod City.

Bacolod Aiport is in Silay City, so it takes time from Bacolod City. From Silay City to the aiport is 10Php for tricycle bu 60Php for van. The difference is that , tricycle cannot get inside the gate of the airport so you have to walk (it’s just really close, you can just walk if you are not carrying heavy luggage and all).

3 Days in Dipolog City


Royal farm resort is a bit far from the city. If you want a hot pool for cold nights, this is definitely where you should go. Although the pools here are only as deep as 4 feet and less. It is a safe and fun place to bring your kids.

Its a Php 50.00 ride from the city to here in a single motor.

You can booked in advance and pay 50% of the total cost.


They also serve foods which are mostly good for 2-3 persons, and if you find it a bit expensive, you can buy something in the city, they don’t charge corkage.

We’ve tasted halo-halo special which is very tasty (highly recommended!), sisig and pancit canton.


If you want to visit a church you can also opt to visit the one located in the city so you can then roam around the city proper.


Dipolog Sunset Boulevard is also a must.

You will also have variety of food choices in here, ranging from restaurants, cafes, grills, to street foods.

Chapters Book Cafe

Death by Chocolate


Mini burgers


Spotting the Difference

There were many times I wanted to discontinue pursuing my masters degree. Not only that it is expensive, which I am not used to (since I came from a State University), but also because of the events and gatherings which I missed because I had to be in the University on weekends.

I missed family travels, and I still feel pain on missing my grandfather’s birthday which happens to be his last.

It has always been my family who has been encouraging me to continue still.

I told my family a couple of times that I don’t intend to attend the graduation ceremony, but days before the graduation my mother told me how my father asked her to urge me to change my mind and attend the ceremony.

It was alarming yet heart piercing, since my father doesn’t really comment on this matters. So I decided to heed their advice–I did attend.

Cheers to my hair’s journey!

Cheers to my relationship status!

It takes patience to be with with one who is enrolled in the graduate school program. From waiting for me outside my class, to my missed special occasions because of class, to helping me out and buying snacks for the panel during my proposal—for everything, thank you.

Thank you to those who were always there for me, & to those I extremely miss right now and always.


Masters in Education major in Guidance and Counseling

Love Letter

Dear Ivan,

We did not meet as neighbors or grow up together as what you have wanted. We did not meet earlier so that we could have decided and planned for our college life together. We did not meet still when we were in college—I could have at least experienced what it felt like to see you waiting for me outside my classroom. I wish I could have experienced the thrill of checking our class schedules if our breaks coincides. Then, we could have at least celebrated our graduation and took a photo together in our graduation gown and cap. (#relationshipgoals)

I wish we did all those things that we weren’t able to just because we did not meet much earlier. But—

If I could turn back time, 2015 is still the best time to finally meet you, and 21 is still the best age to be with you.

We met in God’s time.

We met right when we knew who we are. We met just when we are capable of empathy because we’ve experience all sorts of pain. We met when we were wise enough not to argue on trivial matters because we knew that every second of life is worth celebrating for.

We met when we were not looking for someone who completes us because we knew we already were—we met to complement each other. We met when we were whole.

You were the answer to my prayers, and I believe every choice I made led me to you.

We may not have met when we were much younger, but with God’s grace we will stay together till we’re old. We did not plan for our college life together, but there are still so much more to plan throughout this lifetime, together. I may not have experience the thrill of checking our class schedules, but I knew your work schedule and daily routines now, and I am excited to even know more.  I have experience your patience—waiting for me to finish my work or even my class in the graduate school.

We met just when we were both ready, and it’s a part of God’s majestic plan.

I’m just so glad for keeping my standards high. I love you.

Someday I’ll have a story to tell—a story I’ll feel proud to tell and it will be all about us.








“To all the boys I’ve loved before” series by Jenny Han


So 2017 comes and — “To all the boys I’ve loved before” series comes to an end. It was a wonderful journey all throughout the series.

I remember instantly falling in love after reading the first page of book 1 (Like super instantly–that fast). Unlike other books, I wanted to finish it right away. It is literally the kind of book you don’t wanna stopped reading, you don’t wanna put aside, and even if you do (you have to work and to stuffs), it’s like the whole book runs through your head the whole day.

It started out as something classic–writing letters, which will definitely make you feel like “I should have written something like this before”. Well, Lara Jean (book’s main character) is used to making love letters for her crushes, but instead of sending it, she keeps it in her hatbox (supposedly for good). Then one day her hatbox went missing and all her letters (5 letters) where sent to each of her crushes years ago (classic!).

Then it gets complicated with this 5 recipients of the letters, since one is a hot guy in the campus (who is in love with his pretty-chic-ex-gf), and another one is her sister’s ex boyfriend.

One of the greatest part of this series is the relationship between the Song sisters (their deceased mother is Korean). The story talks about adjustment in the family, their difficulty living without a mother, going to college, and their bond as sisters (3 of them). You will also fall in love with Kitty, the youngest and probably the wittiest of them all. She brings so much humor in the whole series.

I’m not gonna spoil you with anything anymore, but this is gonna get 10/10 for me.

“It feel strange to have spent so much time wishing for something, for someone, and then suddenly, to just stop.”- Lara Jean, To All The Boys I’ve Loved Before

“I know now that I don’t want to love or be loved in half measures. I want it all, and to have it all, you have to risk it all.” -Lara JeanP.S. I Still Love you

“Never say no when you really want to say yes.” -Stormy, Always and Forever, Lara Jean

P.S. To my Peter Kavinsky who bought me my third book. I love you, always and forever. *hugs and kisses*





Cyberbullying: 24/7

Technology has been upgrading and updating, as well as bullying. From the classical name calling, face-to-face verbal and physical abuse, to what we call now cyberbullying.

I am 23 years old and have been working as a counselor in a university.  Cyberbullying is real and has been predominant in our university.

Bullies become the author of posts, pro-commentors, and the likers. Bystanders become the mutual friends who choose to ignore the posts and comments. The bullied are the victims who suffers at abuse any time of the day with or without the presence of the bullies.

Despite the existence of Anti Cyber-Bullying Act, only few seek for help because of the psychological fear of aggravating the circumstances.

I have read the meanest posts and private messages from students who come crying for help. Their pictures are posted online with the meanest captions and their groupchats are filled with hate remarks, and other unwanted messages. Messages implying that they don’t really care whether the victims commit suicide.

With the existence of of films such as Before I Fall, & 13 Reasons Why, which addresses suicide and bullying, I would have hoped that it would somehow helped. But some bullies where even posting quotes from those films and were still mocking at their victims. Again, with the implication that they don’t care whether you commit suicide.

The likes and comments they get, even comments that were out of place only reinforce such behaviour. These bullies are cowards who seeks support from online friends and we should stop them. We have the power to stop them.

The internet, the social media is a scary place if we allow it to. Many have suffered and died and will continue if we don’t intervene.

One upon a time when I was a child

When I was a child I get jealous about how other families were. How my grade school classmates’ mothers would pick them up from school, make them lunch boxes, dressed them up–things my father would do to me, since my mother is working.

I wasn’t that thankful about what I have.  I thought we were not normal. The way my father would turn out as the only male in school meetings, or if lucky 2 or 3 fathers would also show up.

In my 20’s, I get to see some of my friends from long ago. Friends which I used to envy.

Then I realized I was beyond blessed. Some of my friends started to share about how they were abused as a child, how they caught their father cheating, and how their parents doesn’t really care about them.

Once upon a time, I thought I can understand everything just by seeing it. There’s just more to it that what our eyes can see.

We are definitely not perfect, but we are blessed, and for that I am thankful.